A blog about a woman sentenced to one year and one day in a federal women's prison camp and was sent to FMC Carswell for a crime related to her history of compulsive gambling.
Highlights
Saturday, July 20, 2013
Doing Right for our Kids
Independence Day
Friday, July 19, 2013
Laughter and Privilege
Thursday, July 18, 2013
Signs of Stress
Weather and Clothing
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Balance of Character
Getting Those Words Out of Your Head
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Creating Opportunities
Another thing we need to be able to accept is that people who care about us often feel powerless over our situation. They want to "fix" it, but there is no magic pill. We must do our time. We must face the consequences of our actions. They must allow us to face the unknown and scary and they cannot take that away from us. However, we can help by creating some easy opportunities for our family and friends to assist us from the "outside."
My friend Survivor is taking on my finances while I am gone. She and I were talking this afternoon about the fact that some friends have spoken to her about sending some funds my way during my time at Carswell. The generosity of my friends is unbelievable, many of them need every penny they earn, and yet here they are offering to assist me while I am in prison. I am doing my best to save up for all my basic needs. Of course it would be nice to have some of the nicer commissary items, but they are not necessities and I am hopefully only in for 10 months at the longest. So, we were talking about other ways my friends can feel like they are supporting me.
I already sent my friends my prison address, details on the email and phone system, and information on how the visitation system works, should they have the ability to travel to Texas. I know that they will do their best to email and write, and I know that I will be one of the people who feels very grateful at mail call. Forever I will be humble to this reality and will pay forward this to others I meet facing similar situations by writing others in prison.
While reading the Carswell handbook, I noticed that I can receive magazines and newspapers directly from publishers. So, Survivor and I decided that putting a list together of periodicals that I would like to receive (along with the Amazon book wish list I already have) will be the perfect way to create new opportunities for friends to feel like they are doing "something" to help. I don't expect to receive every book/magazine/newspaper on my lists. In fact, I hope I don't, or I would probably have to give half away to other inmates (which wouldn't be so bad). But, it was fun coming up with my list. Survivor will hold the list, so I don't receive 10 copies of People Magazine. It's important to have a central person who can organize things for you while you are gone. I was able to browse a very comprehensive list of magazines at magazines online. Discount websites are fine to order from because you still receive the actual magazines from the publisher. Make sure your specific institution allows magazines by reading the handbook.
My hope is to have a couple weekly magazines, maybe 1-2 monthly ones, and at least one daily newspaper. Since they are allowed, I see no excuse from cutting myself off from the news of the world. It will be bad enough that I will be cut off from social media for so long (another blog post I will have to do, I am sure!). Make sure that the person who is tracking who is purchasing what for you lets you know who ordered a magazine for you, because it may show up without the gifter's name. I plan to write a nice thank you note for anything I receive, as long as I am able. If I can't, it's about "paying it forward," and I certainly will!
And She Won't Respond
Monday, July 15, 2013
How We Leave Things
Sunday, July 14, 2013
Caught Thinking About the Future
One of these days is yesterday with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone.
The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise or poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.
Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds ... but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn. This leaves only one day ... TODAY. Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of these two awful eternities - yesterday and tomorrow - that we break down.
It is not the experience of today that drives people mad - it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Let us, therefore,
LIVE BUT ONE DAY AT A TIME.
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I have always loved that reading because it is so very true. We project what we think will happen in the future, yet it rarely turns out that exact way. We hold onto burdens if our past, yet those days are done and we can do nothing to change the past (only what we do today and each day in front of us matters).
A wise person once said to me when I told them I was worried about the possibility of these legal charges one day getting filed against me, "you can spend every day worrying and if they are never filed, you just wasted every day worrying or you can spend every day worrying and one day they do get filed and you STILL wasted every day worrying." He was absolutely right. Had I been sitting around, worrying for 5 years, I wouldn't be living where I do today. I wouldn't be back in school. I wouldn't have the ability to find joy even during moments of sadness. I would have just wasted away- worrying.
Don't let yourself go there too often, now we all can't help it some of the time, but when your mind is there - lost in the paranoia of what's to come or the darkness of what was, remind yourself that if you are spending all your energy on the past or future, you are failing to live in today. You can battle the issues of just one day. The day will end at some point. You will close your eyes and be able to start afresh tomorrow. The past and future matter but it is what you do today that matters most of all!!