One Year and One Day
A blog about a woman sentenced to one year and one day in a federal women's prison camp and was sent to FMC Carswell for a crime related to her history of compulsive gambling.
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Thursday, November 16, 2017
Back to Prison
This program absolutely blew me away!! It encompasses so many of my passions: teaching & learning (pedagogy), transformative education, corrections, compassion, and hope! The men at the medium/high security prison displayed incredible leadership, passion, intelligence, humility, and kindness. I’ve known for some time that I want to be certified as an Inside-Out instructor, but now I know that I MUST do it! My next step will be to try and advocate for the funding from my school to help pay for the cost of the training. If at all possible, I hope to do the week long training next summer. Here’s more information on the Inside-Out prison exchange program: http://www.insideoutcenter.org/about-inside-out.html
So, I can’t just write about the program without a true reflection of the first experience I’ve had walking into a prison since my release three years ago. To say that the minute we were driving past the rows of barbed wire and then walking through the prison’s front door flooded me with emotions is an understatement. I suddenly was back to my day of self-surrender where I walked into prison with my personal clothing and brought into a small room and ordered to strip. This of course did not happen Tuesday. It was the first time I entered a prison without having to “squat and spread ‘em.”
Although a different prison than Carswell in nearly every way - men, size, age of facility, traditional prison cells, etc., some things were very much the same. Our group was nearly 60 people and we buses to the prison from our criminal justice conference. We were to arrive around noon and spend 12-4:30ish in the workshop. As you know, though, prison is a lot of “hurry up and wait.” We had to wait in the lobby for over an hour and a half as the institution was running their own schedule and then count took longer than expected. Hearing about count took me right back inside during one of the many counts that didn’t go quickly. I would stand for one count, then another, and another, my feel and legs hurting but no choice but to comply with the COs standing count rules.
We entered the prison lobby where many visitors also stood. Amazingly, this prison allows visitation 6-7 Days per week!!! My group’s privilege immediately apparent as we took up every seat on the lobby benches while visiting prisoner family members were forced to stand and wait.
Once permitted to enter beyond the lobby, we signed in where a C.O. talked with us with respect and another put a visitor wrist band on us. It was still hurry up and wait, as we each had to get our hand stamped and then put it under a black light. The female C.O. joked around with me about our short height resulting in my having to get very close. Did I ever have a C.O. joke around with me and laugh with me when I was a prisoner?
We then each went through the metal detectors. Like at Carswell, many items were forbidden - underwire bras, food/drink, digital watches or fitbits, revealing clothing, bags/purses, etc. While my visiting family and friends had to go through similar processes, I never did prior. Above the metal detector hung a wood sign that said, “Safety is not Convenient.” It took nearly 30 minutes for all of us to move through the entry process.
The workshop was held in a large room that seemed to be a very old auditorium. There were rows of seats facing a stage and a large empty area where chairs were arranged in circles. Inside-Out does nearly all their activities and education in circles.
As we entered this auditorium, approximately 15 prisoners greeted us with introductions and handshakes. They seemed excited about what lay ahead for the afternoon. We were informed to take a seat in one of two circle of chairs, facing outward. In front of each set of chairs, was one chair facing them, the Inside-Out prisoners sat in those chairs. Then one of the prisoners took leadership and ran us through a great ice breaker where the leader gave an incomplete sentence and we each had to give our thoughts/answers for filling in the blank. “The street sign that currently defines my life is_____”, “the future of the justice system looks like ______”, ... there were about ten rounds and a different prisoner sat in the chair facing mine after each question. What a great way to meet so many of the prisoners and get to know them through their answers.
Most of the rest of our activities were in smaller groups of about 7-8 people. Each group was led by one of the prisoners. Activities included identifying the values of a just system, creating a model of a transformed criminal justice system of the future, shared dialogue, and much more. By the time we had to leave after 5pm due to the late start, everyone in the room was transformed. Connection was built as we shared ideas of restoration, wellness, education, Love, compassion, and much more. The depth and intellect of the inside-out prisoners far exceeded anything I witnessed in carswell. Many of these men were lifers, yet they maintained hope, were lifelong learners, displayed incredible teamwork, showed respect for one another, and valued this opportunity.
Interestingly, I of course wanted to observe the prison staff. Although a medium/high security prison,there were three C.O.’s with us throughout the afternoon. They relaxed in the distance and paid little attention to the community building occurring between the prisoners and our group. One C.O. Was on bathroom duty, because only one person could use it at a time. Now this was something I was used to - asking permission to use the restriom. With permission, I had to walk up 1 1/2 flights of stairs to a very old room with supplies and a sink. A heavy door that did not fully close or lock had the sign “visitor and staff restroom.” Everything in the bathroom was aged and sad. I never thought about the fact that in some prisons, even C.O.’s have below adequate facilities. In the case of this prison, though, a new prison is currently being built down the road and this very old building will no longer exist within a year or so. Everyone will be moved. I imagine the prisoners and staff look forward to the change.
I was told by program staff that I should not mention my criminal history to anyone associated with the prison. You all know me, though, that rule was defied as soon as I met one of the male prisoners who asked a question that either required I reveal or a lie. I revealed in the end to about 3 of the prisoners in private conversation. I did not to the C.O.’s. The prisoners were my peers, and I still saw the staff as my enemy. There was a bond I immediate felt toward the men in prison garb, me aware of my privilege of still wearing everything I wore from the free world. One prisoner wore a crochet hat. I let him know I liked it and he said it was contraband. Another inmate made it. Yeah, I understood that. The underground market.
The ability to sit with other prisoners and share stories of similarity and difference was incredible. At this prison, the men can purchase is commissary a flat screen tv for their cells, tablets without internet for music, writing and reading, hot plates, and many other items unheard of at FMC Carswell. In fact their email system is that the men write their emails on their tablet and later plug into a station which downloads them and sends them to the institution to be processed and sent. I can’t even imagine how many more blog posts and how much more detail I could have written during prison, if I were able to do the writing offline first without time limit or cost!!
What an amazing program and amazing day! http://www.insideoutcenter.org/
Thursday, October 12, 2017
Using this Blog Again
It's been interesting reading and reviewing my blog posts on these issues. I read them and feel like I'm right back there in prison. It's been three years, yet the memories are still very vibrant. I am so grateful to have this blog to refer back to, though, people are still reading it. It is still relevant.
I can honestly say that had I had a much longer sentence, I could see myself at some point even defying my early assertions that I would never be in a prison relationship. I do not think I would have allowed it to become intimate, but the culture of same-sex relationships is very strong and everyone wants to be loved. At the time, I was single. I can't imagine I would have chosen to act in any way that could have gotten me in trouble, more time, or put in the SHU, but would I have developed feelings for someone - quite possibly. I am queer and I was surrounded by amazing women.
Had I had such an experience, how would it have been similar or different than those women who are not LGBT in the outside world? I do not know. I do not have the data to know how or why it may be similar or different. I do know that my observations at the time were very much of women taking risks and I am not a risk taker. I abide by the rules, for the most part, and do not have a need for "action." Sneaking around, having sex in public places, asking people to be "look outs," these are behaviors far outside my comfort zone. No matter how long I was in prison, I do not think I would have done any of that.
So, perhaps I would have had an affectionate relationship with someone. I cannot imagine that I would have had an intimate sexual relationship.
So, it will be interesting to write this paper. It's initially for a class and will also be presented at that conference I mentioned. I'm hoping it adds to our general understanding of women's prisons and the relationships that form within them. Just wanted to share with anyone who chooses to read.
Thursday, September 7, 2017
Resiliency
Why do I feel like informing you all of this?
It is because I am continually trying to use my experience of having an addiction, being in recovery, and the incarceration as an asset, rather than a detriment. Wouldn't it be amazing if people coming out of prison/jail automatically felt that they gained something positive from their experience that could help them in the future? I certainly do not feel everyone should have to experience being incarcerated - especially given the experiences I had. However, we all face so many things that potentially could stop us from chasing our goals/dreams. It is resiliency that helps determine whether these experiences inhibit us or not. While for years "hope" was my word, for the last several months, I have been focusing on "resiliency."
How did I become a person who appears to be resilient? I'm sure there is a lot of research that shows we develop resiliency when we are young. There has to be an underlying belief in yourself. Interestingly, I do not believe I have had very high self-esteem generally throughout my life. However, I often had people who stepped up as mentors and advisors when I most needed support that assisted me with finding solutions to major problems.
For example, I almost dropped out of college as a Sophomore. I was totally lost. I entered college as a theater and film major, but by my sophomore year, I experienced horrible homophobia in my theater department (and in other parts of my life) and was also unable to afford the costs of film and supplies associated with a film major (this was the early 90's - nothing was digital). So, I had no idea what to do. It was an academic advisor and a couple other women in higher education roles, that took me under their wing to ensure I did not drop out. I actually somehow had a semester of being a full-time student without ever entering a course. My credits were based on other experiences offered to me on campus (I was making a video for a sports team, keeping a journal from some leadership experiences, etc.). I could not have been resilient, found a new major, and ultimately graduated my undergraduate institution without this support.
While I often refer to the experiences I had in prison in trying to get out as self-efficacy - an academic word for one's belief that they have the ability to succeed. Perhaps, much of my experience was actually resiliency. I have many people to thank for helping instill some resiliency in me. I think this is why I often say that I am not special or unique. I am just the culmination of the experiences I have had throughout my life. I am sometimes proud of myself for the resiliency in my life. Sometimes, I doubt myself. No concept is simple. Just thought I would share!
Are you a resilient person?
Saturday, June 24, 2017
Presenting in Mexico
I feel very grateful that I found the way to maintain this blog while in prison. The ability to read some of my experiences really puts any turmoils I currently have in perspective. I mean, if I could survive Carswell, I could survive anything, right?!? I recently celebrated 9 years of being clean from gambling and GA recovery. I went to dinner with two women from my GA group and it was perfect. Fellowship is one of the most important parts of recovery for me.
Here in Mexico, I've felt very alone. I did not travel with anyone here, and I find myself always having difficulty with networking. In fact, today was the first real meal I had with someone (5 days here) and it was a fascinating person who was on the same conference panel as me. Just that one lunch, made me feel so much better. I even went to 2 group conference activities earlier in the week and fails to talk with anyone. I'm like the most introverted extrovert you ever met!
I thank god, though, that even though I was alone all week, I still work a strong program of recovery. It turned out the Airbnb I was staying at was less than a block from a Mexico City casino. I haven't been that close to a casino in years. In our program we know that "caught off guard and under the right set of circumstances" anyone could relapse and gamble again. It's continued attendance and service in GA that helps us be able to make healthier choices. So, I never once even considered entering that casino - even though no one would ever know. For me, just one bet would take me right back to the person I was over 9 years ago. I never, ever, want to be that person, that addict, again. Having paid the huge consequence of being in prison and having a felony for the rest of my life is a constant reminder how low my life could get if I ever placed that first bet.
I learned today that one of my sponsees was just sentenced to about 21 days in jail. She has faced incredible public backlash for her financial crime related to her addiction to gambling. Without that backlash, the prosecutor was recommending probation only. Due to public outcry, she will spend 3 weeks in jail. It may sound insignificant that it is "only" 3 weeks, but I remember feeling that Kay one day was too much! If you read my first 3 weeks in prison, it was overwhelming and fearful. I can only send her prayers and hope she knows I'm thinking of her, because as of right now I do not know where she's been placed. Once I do, I will write to her and visit her when I return to the U.S. from Mexico. I know she read some of this blog prior to sentencing and I can only hope it gave her some insight into the fact that in the end, things will be okay! I just wish I could give her a huge hug right now! Instead I will ask all of you to send her your prayers, and I will give her the pseudonym Peace, because that is what I wish for her!!
I also received news that my first cousin is in hospice. She's barely 50 years old. She's a lovely person too. Cancer :-(. I always had these intentions to spend more time with her and she did me. We always said we'd visit one another, and meant it. Life got in the way. Never let life get in the way of spending precious time with important people. You never know when they may leave your life too soon. One thing I know, though, is she will be one of those dragonflies that Survivor always tells me about - those who have passed and look out for you after. She will be a beautiful dragonfly! I hope to see her before she goes. I want to share one significant experience I had with her. When I was 9 years old, and she was already a young adult, she took me to see E.T. It was the first time we spent time together just the two of us. It was also one of the first times I saw a movie without my immediate family. I fell in love with E.T. and had such an amazing day with my cousin that I still remember it 35 years later. She was one of the first people who talked to me like I mattered. I was more than just a kid, but I had thoughts and she wanted to hear them. Please also send your prayers to her, and I'll call her Drew because Drew Barrymore was so amazing in E.T.!
I'm still not sure as to the purpose of my writing in this blog these days. I hate to fully let it go, though. There have been times when this blog was my best friend and gave me purpose. I could not have survived prison in the way I did, without this outlet and connection to others. It does not get a lot of readers these days, although we did recently surpass 100,000 page views!! Thank you!!! Without readers, this would merely be a diary. I hope I continue to find ways to enlighten, provide humor, and help those that are facing what feels like the end of the world as they know it - prison!
Tuesday, April 18, 2017
It's Been A While
So, where is my life today.
The post I should've written many mo ths ago is that I was released from Federal Supervision about 10 months early. I kinda knew my P.O. was trying for it, but then I didnt hear from him for a while. Suddenly in the mail, I received official documents from the court that I was released two weeks prior. I was shocked!! No more monthly reports and no more requests for travel. I was free. I do still pay monthly restitution. There's no one telling me to, but I know I owe it and I wouldn't want to find out what happens if I don't pay.
The best part of being free is receiving a new passport, which I did last month.
This upcoming summer I have been invited to present a part of my Master's Thesis (Self and Collective Efficacy in a Women's Prison) at a conference in Mexico City, and I can go!!! I can leave the country if/when I want (except for Canada of course).
I'm almost done with my PhD coursework. I have two semesters to go. Then I'll be doing my comprehensive exams and working on my dissertation. I am doing a pilot research study this summer looking at the consequences (especially legal ones) of compulsive gambling. I am also doing research on transgender prison policies. I have a diverse portfolio. 😄
I have been helping a couple women in GA that may face similar consequences for their gambling as I did. I just keep reminding them to take it all a day at a time, attend meetings, and it will all be okay in the end. Next month will be three years since my release from FMC Carswell. I'm in touch with Freckles and Lola, who are both doing great as well. Life keeps happening, but we are all able to face the ups and downs.
I guess some people get out of prison and try to never look back. South is likely one of those people. I, however, feel that my experience has informed my life in many ways. I need to work to make the prison experience better. I need to help reform our criminal justice system overall. I need to advocate for better understanding of addiction motivated crime. Research will help me do that.
As a researcher who has been to prison, I am officially a part of convict criminology. I don't love the name, but the people are pretty great. They are former inmates like me who use their prison exoerience to inform their research priorities. It is noce to attend conferences for criminal justice and have the support of other former inmates who are also graduate students and professors. My master's thesis fit well within this genre and I am going to try to publish some pieces of it over the next year or so. I am totally a nerdish grad student. Many of my collegues know little to nothing of my past. Many of them know a lot. I do not hide from my past and try to use it as an advantage. It is not always easy, but I always try.
My hope is to graduate in 2019. If I were not kicked out of my original program, I would likely be graduating this year. Traveler is doing just that and I am super excited of her life to come. I will miss having her living in my same city. T.S. is also graduating next month. Her four year's of college life are ending. Despite all our family drama and my absence from here while in Texas, she is graduating with honors. She is an exceptional young woman.
Sporty and I recently gained custody of T.S.'s little sister. She is 12, so we will not be empty nesters anytime soon. Given where my life was just a couple years ago, it is amazing to see how things get back to semi-normal.
I am still at the same job I had prior to incarceration. My Director had my back, even knowing the truth. I was promoted last year into a major role. I am resigning this summer to focus on my degree and research. I have a research assistantship that will carry me through to graduation.
Health-wise I would like to say things are better. They are not. I'm on yet a new biologic medication and have another new diagnosis. I take it all as it comes and hope for more good days than bad. It has not been good lately, but I know it will get better.
I kinda miss the reality of a daily blog. Not sure what I'd write about anymore. My life is rather boring now. I guess that is the best result of the chaos that existed from 2013-2014. Be well all!
This is one of my favorite sayings, nit sure if I shared it before, but here it goes anyway:
Two Days We Should Not Worry
Author Unknown
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.
One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares,
its faults and blunders, its aches and pains.
Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday.
We cannot undo a single act we performed;
we cannot erase a single word we said.
Yesterday is gone forever.
The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow
with all its possible adversities, its burdens,
its large promise and its poor performance;
Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.
Tomorrow's sun will rise,
either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise.
Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow,
for it is yet to be born.
This leaves only one day, Today.
Any person can fight the battle of just one day.
It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down.
It is not the experience of Today that drives a person mad,
it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.
Let us, therefore, Live but one day at a time.
Thursday, June 30, 2016
Oh Canada... (felon permission to travel to the True North)
However, once convicted of my felony, I believed that it would be an unreachable country into the future, due to laws that forbid felons from entering. My birthdays of being in Whistler, Canada and trips to Montreal for a change of pace would be something of past memories. My family would still be able to go, but I would be stranded on this side of the border - no Alaska Cruise that "happens" to stop in Vancouver. No academic conferences that happen to be in Toronto or Calgary.
I happened to mention these issues to another PhD student at my school, who happens to be from Canada. We were talking about a conference I cannot attend, because it will be in Canada. She informed me of a couple ways for U.S. ex-felons to gain permission for travel into Canada. The shock that turned into a smile was fathomable as I started to realize that "for now" I may be unable to travel North, but perhaps not "forever." Just like my program of recovery, we have to live in the day and I do not know what the future will bring, but I have a new HOPE that I will once again travel freely and legally to a Country I happen to love.
So, of course, I wanted to share this news with all of you.
The best way to get permission to travel to Canada is to fill out an application (http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/applications/guides/5312ETOC.asp#5312E4) that you have been rehabilitated. The application is something you do in advance and pay approx. $200 to find out if they will approve you. You must be 5 years post-sentencing (including probation) - or 10 years for major offenses (ones that could carry 10 years of prison time). You need to show that you have been rehabilitated and are not likely to offend again. This is done through sharing a lot of documents asked by the application (http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/pdf/kits/forms/IMM5507E.pdf) Documents include: court documents, sentence completion documents, a criminal clearance document, state police and FBI documents, and more. Does this sound burdensome? Yes. Is it worth is? Once deemed rehabilitated, you would be free to enter/leave the country any time. Keep in mind that it can take up to 6 months for a rehabilitation application to be approved.
For those that want it to be simpler and do not plan to travel much to Canada, they can "take their chances" at the border - in a legal way. If you bring proof of rehabilitation to the border (http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/inadmissibility/rehabilitation.asp#a2) you may be assessed right there for entry. Immigration officers at the border do the assessment on site.
"You are eligible to apply for deemed rehabilitation at a port of entry if:It is still a lot to collect and travel with all these documents, but it may mean that you do not have to cross Nova Scotia or Victoria Island off your bucket list.
A request for deemed rehabilitation is not guaranteed to be approved.
- you only had one conviction in total or committed only one crime
- at least ten years have passed since you completed all sentences (payment of all fees, jail time completed, restitution paid, etc.)
- the crime you committed is not considered a serious crime in Canada AND
- the crime did not involve any serious property damage, physical harm to any person, or any type of weapon.
If you think you are eligible, be sure you have these documents if you travel to Canada:
- passport or birth certificate plus photo identification
- a copy of court documents for each conviction, and proof that all sentences were completed
- a recent criminal record check
- a recent police certificate from the country where you were convicted and from anywhere you have lived for six (6) months or longer in the last 10 years."
Everyone who travels to Canada from the U.S. may need to meet some requirements. It used to be so easy to just drive across the border and show your driver's license, but now it is a little trickier:
- "have a valid travel document, such as a passport,
- be in good health,
- have no criminal or immigration-related convictions,
- convince an immigration officer that you have ties—such as a job, home, financial assets or family—that will take you back to your home country,
- convince an immigration officer that you will leave Canada at the end of your visit, and
You may also need a:
- have enough money for your stay. (The amount of money you will need can vary. It depends on things such as how long you will stay, and whether you will stay in a hotel, or with friends or relatives.)
- medical exam and
- letter of invitation from someone who lives in Canada."
Oh great Canada, I am sure I will see you in person again!
Sunday, May 29, 2016
Lifting the Fog
Sunday, May 8, 2016
8 Years
Today, my life is full of wonder and awe. I live in confidence, love, honesty, openness, willingness, peace, and much more happiness. I am married and surrounded by young people. I give back to my community and do my best to do so without expectation of anything in return. I am forgiving. I seek forgiveness when necessary without expectation of forgiveness in return. I try to make healthy choices of mind, body, and spirit.
I make amends for my past in various ways both public and private. I speak openly as a felon and of my crime and those I hurt. I do not hide from my past, as perhaps I can help open minds and educate others. I take my recovery seriously and continue in my recovery knowing that no one is ever cured of addiction and that we must always be there for the new people who walk into our rooms. I give back by taking leadership through participation in Gambler's Anonymous intergroup and helping with area rooms and conferences. I make my monthly reports to my Probation Officer, showing that I have not gambled, have not done anything in violation of my supervision and that I am doing everything I can to ensure I would not find myself in the position to commit an addiction motivated crime again.
I rebuild relationships with those I hurt as much as I can. Any chance I see anyone in person, my openness, honesty, and willingness to speak and ask forgiveness is usually accepted. Those that have chosen to not forgive me, I will never give up trying to make amends to. I shall carry their names with me and if/when the time comes, I shall ask again. It will always be up to them.
I pay my restitution every month. Some months are harder than others to honestly meet the 10% of income threshold. We have 3 college students in our household and our finances are tight. It is a priority payment, though, and it is paid. It is something I do not just because I am told I must, but because it is a very real reminder of where just one gambling bet could take me. I do not have urges to gamble, but if I ever did, I just need to remember that I already have 10% of my income going out because of gambling, I certainly do not need more (besides violations of my supervision, etc.). I could not imagine anything taking me back to gambling, yet 95% of people who start recovery, do go back out. I guess I am fortunate to not have had a relapse (knock on wood). I surrendered to recovery and GA the minute I walked into the door. I knew I had a problem and wanted to find a way to stop. It was no longer fun - I just could not stop. GA gave me a way, as long as I was willing to sit and listen to those who stood in my shoes before me. Crazy to think I am now one of those people who helps the new person now.
Things have not been all roses. I have been sick for months. This academic semester brought with it the Norovirus and several additional infections over a period of time. I've had bronchitis for over 1 1/2 months. One thing seems to get better and the next hits me. My docs have me off all my meds for my chronic health issues in hopes that my body could fight off the infections, but it has not been helping, so my pain and fatigue levels have gone up. It's been very difficult and I was not able to finish my thesis this semester due to my health. I now have a goal of June. The stress of everything with fighting the school appeared to make it all a bit worst.
However, I am alive. I have a job I love. I am looking forward to classes that will challenge and enlighten me. I have an incredible family. I will get off supervision in 2016. I am loved. I am good enough. I deserve the good that happens in my life. What a difference 8 years makes!
I do want to put a shout out to all the Mom's in Carswell or incarcerated anywhere. I remember that day well. It is a very hard day for Mothers. Be good to your Mom today. Happy Mother's Day!
Sunday, February 7, 2016
Wednesday, December 9, 2015
According to Probation Services...
Monday, December 7, 2015
December Supervision Update and More
I have been on supervision a total of 17 months of my 3 year sentence. Word was that most people have to do at least 18 months, so there's that. What about the "before the holidays," stuff though? I had to go see my P.O. and I have been pushing him in a cordial kind of way... "any movement?" "anything I can do?"
One thing I did was bring in my Carswell certificate that showed I took a class in financial budgeting. It was a requirement of my supervision that I have a financial course and encouraged that I do it while still incarcerated. I didn't mind doing so. It was informative and Glitter taught it. I went for six weeks and we watched videos, filled out paperwork, took a pre and post test. It was legit. I received a certificate and points on my official paperwork for completing it. It was one of the few educational activities where I was a participant and not the educator. My P.O. made a copy of the certificate last time I was there and we crossed that requirement off my paperwork, or so I thought.
Last week, I talked to my P.O. again due to my needing permission to travel for Thanksgiving, and he informed me that he still wanted me to get in another financial seminar ("I don't care how short or long it is"). I guess pushing these programs while still incarcerated don't count once we are out. Luckily, I had several workshops I'd been to that we could choose from. We selected a workshop I recently attended with the youth I work with where I actually took a selfie with Rev. Jessee Jackson Sr. Telling my P.O. that I had a selfie with Rev. Jackson resulted in his wanting me to text him a copy of the photo. While not nearly as informative as the seminar I attended at Carswell, the one day workshop with Jessee Jackson crossed that "t" and dotted that "i," and there was nothing remaining on my requirements from court for concern. No matter what anything may think of Rev. Jessee Jackson, the workshop was really good and he was inspirational to the youth - also, he was impressive to my P.O. which is all that really matter!!!
So, was that enough? Well, no.
Being qualified to be recommended for early release from supervision and having your P.O. actually seek it are two entirely different things! I had done everything expected of me for the last 17 months - monthly reports, paying more than expected in restitution, maintaining my employment, school, solid family life, no negative police interactions, clean from gambling, active in recovery, etc., but there are several people that must make the decision to ACT before anything can happen and the first level had initially decided to NOT act.
My P.O. informed me that the office was so overwhelmed with "bad" drug dealers that they did not have time to go to court to request my early release. Early release is the lowest priority in such a busy office. With the number of people recently being released from prisons, they are just too burdened to take on the work of early release. He admitted he was going to try to get me released before, but too much work has now piled upon him. I think he could see my disappointment as I just stared at him knowing that he had all the power in that room.
I did not let it entirely go, though. I brought up the fact that travel is a real part of my life - as all our family members live out of state and I am constantly burdening him with travel requests.
Next thing that happened is that my P.O. decided that he would call the prosecutor from my case and see if there would be an opposition to early release. If not, it will be much simpler to go forward. That phone call should have occurred this past week. I am supposed to hear back from my P.O. tomorrow.
My P.O. asked me if the prosecutor was being really tough on me. I said that, honestly, he was tough in the fact that he asked for prison and a year and a day, but that he could have gone with the statutory minimums of 3-5 years. My P.O. laughed and said, "he went for a year and a day?"
I said, "I know, he wanted me to be able to get time off..."
My P.O. said, "exactly." One year and I'd have served exactly 365 days in prison and instead I was able to served about 10 months!
I also said that the prosecutor allowed me to hold on to my passport and go to South Africa between arraignment and sentencing. This fascinated my P.O. "You went to South Africa??"
"Yeah, they said I was a good bet." Meaning I wouldn't run. "I told them that they should use a different choice of words on me."
My P.O. is the one person in the legal system who understands my sense of humor around my gambling addiction. I reminded my P.O. that I am 7 1/2 years clean from gambling. I am also 7 1/2 years since any wrong doing.
I do not know what could happen. Will I be released from supervision before my three years are finished or will I have the opportunity to have a judge consider me for early release? These are outside my control. I will just keep doing the right thing whether on or off supervision and hope that I continue to maintain a decent relationship with my P.O.
Honesty, Open-Mindedness, and Willingness are three words we learn in recovery --- I think they are applicable in our relationships with our P.O.'s as well!
Sunday, November 29, 2015
Gambling Diversion Programs instead of Prison? Why Not??
Yes, she committed a crime but putting her in a prison where gambling is rampant and she will receive no treatment whatsoever is not the answer. Diversion programs are not a free ride - instead, like drug court, they help people get the recovery they need and recidivism rates are much lower than when sent to prison. Gambling motivated white-collar offenders are not motivated by greed - they are motivated by the next bet, the last bet, debts caused by gambling, and the irrational thoughts and feelings that plague their lives due to the inability to stop gambling.
Treatment for problem gamblers a long shot in Las Vegas courts
Friday, November 20, 2015
My Presentations and a lot of Sleep
Wednesday, November 18, 2015
Freckles TIPS Presentation
Presentation
Friday, November 13, 2015
Typical BOP False Hopes? (By Freckles!)
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
Halloween Comes too Close to Home
Monday, October 19, 2015
Ashes to Ashes
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
My LGBTQ Rights
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Supervision Status
As for my other trip, I am going to a national conference to make two criminal justice presentations. One I am not concerned about - it is based on the research I did this summer through my independent study. The other presentation is based on my thesis and is all about this blog!! I'm focusing my actual presentation more on the methodology of autoethnography in a woman's prison than on findings, since I have not reached my findings stage in my research yet. This will be when I am at a conference of amazing criminal justice researchers, however, and I tell them all that I am Dragonfly Hazel, I am a graduate student at my university, and I may be seeking employment at their universities in the future. My story will become much more public this November in the Criminal Justice community.
My P.O. approved both trips. He does not know the emotions behind both trips, just the purpose of the trips. He has approved every trip I have requested since my supervision began in July, 2014. I have taken many trips outside of the state. I do not have to ask for permission for trips outside of my district, as long as I stay within my state.
While with my P.O., I once again asked, "is my name going to the Judge for consideration for early release from supervision?" I know that many people are being released from the federal prisons very soon due to the change in mandatory drug sentences and they need to get people like me off the higher level supervision rolls. My P.O. looked at a bunch of stuff on his computer screen and asked me to provide him with updated bank statements this week. He will go to his supervisor. Three possibilities will follow.
1) His supervisor could agree with him that my file is ready to go to the Judge for consideration for removal from supervision. The judge will consider everything to date and I may be released. I have been on supervision 15 months of my 3 year sentence.
2) His supervisor could decide to put me on a lower level of supervision in which case I will be assigned to a different P.O., but remain on supervision for a period of time with some level of contact and some responsibilities.
3) His supervisor could disagree and have me remain on the same level of supervision and I stay with my same P.O. for some period of time until we do another review.
My P.O. asked me "why do I want my supervision to end? what would change?" A very smart question by him... but I already knew my answer. I have no idea what others say to it. I said, "the only thing that would change for me, is my ability to travel without having to ask permission, especially with notice." My mom and stepdad moved down South. My dad passed away. My step-grandfather now lives with my parents down south and is 97 years old. Sporty’s family still lives back in the state I grew up in. T.S. decided last minute to have a pumpkin carving party just last weekend back there and I could not go because I need at least 2 week notice to travel. I want to be able to travel for family things and not have to worry. If something is going on with my aging parents or my step-grandfather, I want to be able to just go. The only thing that changes for me is that.
I will keep going to G.A. - I was going before and I never plan to stop. It's a part of my life. I need it. It is my medicine to stay in recovery!
I will keep paying my restitution. Perhaps some people don't pay it if they don't have to, but I will. In G.A. we believe that repayment of our debts is essential in our recovery. It may take me years and years to pay on my restitution amount that was set by the court, but as long as I continue to pay I am doing my duty and it will be a forever reminder of how far my illness took me. I know I will never forget, but a monthly payment is a good reminder nevertheless. I have no idea where that money goes and I just pray that it is going to a good cause and into the community that felt the most hurt by my actions! When enough money is there, I hope they are able to build a fund that really helps individuals within the community.
I do not know if I will be off supervision in a month, three months, or a year. It could be that I am on it for the full 3 years. I do know that my only way off supervision is to continue to do the right next thing every single day. I am honest with my P.O. every time I am asked a question. I submit my monthly reports on time. I pay my restitution every month. I do my best to be the client/supervisee that he does not have to worry about. I have enough personal worries of my own.
Sunday, October 4, 2015
Creativity
Thursday, September 24, 2015
Specific Deterrence
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Finding my Dissertation Topic
I am starting to also work on the baby steps of my dissertation at the same time. Sounds crazy, right? However, I need to be doing both right now because I am taking PhD courses while I am still completing this last Master's course and having this extra time on my thesis due to the issues that occurred Spring semester last year. I don't want to have to stay in school an entire extra year and my professors do not want me to either. I'm in an advanced research methods course right now that prefers we use the class to start thinking about our "topic," and I have...
I am going to focus on addictions and crime. After a 30 minute conversation with a professor last week, I am fairly certain the focus will be around the fact that incarceration does not best serve an addict or the victims of addiction based crime. I want to think very broadly in terms of defining addiction - including physical and behavioral addictions - with hopes that the research could help with pre-sentencing and/or placement decisions.
Too many people who are not career criminals or violent criminals are put into our prison system when what they need are programs that will better serve them. I feel that prisons are broken for all, but if we have a system called "prisons" they should be for those that are a "danger" to society. Addicts are a danger to society only because they are first a danger to themselves. If programs can help combat that first issue, they can potentially combat the second.
Our prison system does not help individuals the way we need it to. If someone is an addict, there are many ways to continue to be an addict or cross-addict in prison. The system is not set up to actually help a person connect to other people and start to build the fellowship necessary to really succeed in society post-incarceration. Something different is needed. Some research exists, but most is around drugs and alcohol, little if any around other forms of addiction.
So, I have my dissertation topic. How I will conduct my research is yet to be decided. The exact focus within this topic will be small. Many of the decisions will be decided as I move forward. However, my research will be on addiction and crime. I am excited.